It seems like EVERYONE is getting divorced these days. I can’t figure out if it makes me feel better or worse. But anyway, welcome Heidi. Now you are officially cool like me.
But I’m not here to name drop about celebrities who are shamelessly following my trend. I’m here to give some unsolicited advice. See, I really dislike GETTING unsolicited advice…but boy do I LOVE giving it. So here it is—drink it in.
BE A GOOD PERSON DURING DIVORCE.
I have quite a few regrets in regards to my divorce…one being that I’m getting a divorce at all. But mostly that I spent so much time fighting with and saying mean things to my ex.
I was very hurt. And I read some quote somewhere that said “hurt people hurt people.” (10 points to whoever can tell me the source of that quote—I feel like I would appreciate this person…unless it’s Dr.’s Laura, Oz or Phil). I am living proof that this is true. I was so hurt that I spent a ridiculously stupid amount of time saying hurtful things to my ex…and you know what that achieved? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Shocker, huh? I am really very sad that I let my heartbreak get the best of me.
And you know what I regret even more than that? The fact that while I was obsessing over things to say to my ex, so that he would hurt as bad as I did, I could have been obsessing over my Bug. Now, I’m not saying Bug was ever in danger of being neglected or even not paid enough attention to. But what I am saying is that putting my energy into fighting and arguing and pleading and hurting was completely futile…and I’m a mom and have much more important things to obsess over.
So let my story be a tale of caution to you single mama’s out there (I’m looking at you Heidi). That snappy and mean comeback may make you feel better in the exact moment you say it, but less than 30 seconds later, you will feel like a jerk. Your little one deserves more than having this bad energy around him.
And Heidi, if you ever need to talk—I’m here.
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