Sunday, March 11, 2012

Sorry Ryan Gosling, but you are my second choice of dudes to cuddle with.

I’m not exactly a needy person (lie), but if there is one thing that I can really be high maintenance about, it is cuddling. I blame my mother for this, who doesn’t? I really enjoy a good snuggle…I will snuggle with men, parents, besties, blankets, pets and babies. And now that I am single, I find myself allowing Bug to form some pretty terrible habits. He sleeps with me. Like, all the time. And seriously, haters, shut up about the whole “you’ll squish him!” shenanigans. I will not squish my son…have you seen him? It’s more likely he will squish me. Get over it.
So, I have been doing some reading about this whole co-sleeping/family bed thing. And here are my thoughts:
Pros:
·         Bond forming.
·         Comfort for me, as well as him.
·         Because I am crazy, I have to make sure my baby is still breathing every 30 seconds or so (yes, still), and if he is sleeping with me, I don’t have to get up (because I’m lazy).
·         That amazing time first thing in the morning when Bug wakes up and just lays there smiling and softly cooing to himself. I would totally never get to witness that if he were in a crib.
·         My son is an amazing nighttime sleeper. He will give me a full 8 hours of sleep. When he sleeps in his crib, I get uncomfortable and wake up every half hour in a panic. I know that this is my problem, but when he is in bed with me, I sleep, he sleeps and ultimately we both wake up with little to no hatred towards the world. HUGE PRO!
Cons:
·         I spent a stupid amount of money on cribs and crib bedding that he hardly ever use. Sucks.
Ok, so obviously I’m a little biased. And I also want to state that I wanted to co-sleep even when I wasn’t a needy and whiney single mom. My ex eventually had to kindly express that the bed wasn’t big enough for the four of us…yes, four. Our puppy would often get hateful if he was left out of the family bed.
It’s just now that I’m single I just can’t justify keeping this big ol bed to myself. It’s lonely in there. (~~~SUBTLE HINT FOR RYAN GOSLING TO CALL ME~~~)
(DISCLAIMER: While people who tell me I will smother my baby are cray-cray, I do believe two things: a) do your research and make your own decisions about co-sleeping. Here are a couple of articles--

b) Even if you co-sleep, try your hardest to get your baby comfortable in a crib too…so that on those “rare” nights that you want to stay up drinking wine by yourself, watching Finding Bigfoot with the lights off, you don’t endanger your baby at all. As with texting and facebooking, co-sleeping does not mix with alcohol.)

Love,
mama & B

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